The Empowered Lifestyle

As you all might know by now, I pen a daily tip for iVillage.com that gets sent to hundreds of thousands of their subscribers each day. And, as you might imagine, I tend to hear from a host of those very same subscribers when I post a tip that seems to strike a chord. That happened recently, except this post didn’t just strike a chord, apparently it struck the whole friggin’ orchestra.

The tip in question was for single women only and it advised that if an unmarried woman was looking to find the perfect partner of her dreams that she should sleep in a bedroom painted some shade of pink or peach or even salmon. The response that I received to sharing this one Feng Shui ‘secret’ has reached epic proportions. Let’s address some of the most common concerns from the myriad mails that I’ve received:

1. What if you are renting space or are living in a place that doesn’t allow you to actually proactively paint the walls?

Now, I have to reiterate that this tip is gender specific to single women (more on that in a minute) and is only ONE of a host of different ways to use the bedroom to attract the date of your dream date. If you can’t paint and you are either a man or a woman, what you can do is locate the ‘Relationship’ area of your bedroom (standing at the bedroom door and looking inside the room, it’s the back right hand corner) and place A PAIR OF ANYTHING HERE. The number two symbolizes couples and coupling.
One standard Feng Shui “cure” says to place a pair of geese or ducks here as these species mate for life. In fact, a pair of lovebirds, for my money, will make these loving intentions take flight a bit more quickly while not having your visitors quack up when they see wooden ducks or geese lingering in your love space.

As well, and this is the gold standard of Feng Shui secrets, a pair of healthy, fresh pink long stemmed roses (with all thorns removed) put into a pure white vase and placed into the ‘Romance/Relationship’ area will do the proverbial trick as well. To make sure you have given a new relationship every chance to bloom and grow, you should change out those roses every nine days for a total of 27 days (or three times.)

Or you could make sure that you have TWO beds stands with TWO lamps sitting atop each of them. Change the bulbs in those lamps to red ones and turn them on for three hours a day every single day for 49 straight. If you miss a day, you have to begin the process again. And those lamps don’t only need to be on for three hours, they could stay on (in the case that you were going away for the weekend) or be put on timers. Just remember to visualize what it is you want out of this adjustment before you get turned on. I have it on excellent authority that this cure really does work. Gives new meaning to ‘red light’ district, eh? Speaking of working the red, red sheets on the bed stimulate the sizzle and bring some heat to the room and, then, to your love life.

2. Does painting the walls pink work if you are a guy looking for a partner?

There are so many things wrong with this question, but, the answer is NO and I know there was a huge and collective sigh from many, MANY of my male readers. There is a secret cure in Feng Shui that says if you are a single man looking to mate then you should hang a picture of cherry or apple blossoms over your bed. Easy enough and it really works the energies to your advantage. You can also use all the same stipulations just mentioned as well as this next one; if you are really serious about attracting that special someone, make some room for them. That’s right, show the Universe how ready you are to share your space by making some for someone else. Clear out a small space in your closet. Give some stuff away. Clean out a drawer and leave it empty for someone dear to come and fill. Likewise, look at your bathroom and make some space for the second toothbrush. Act “as if” and “if” will soon follow you home.

3. If my marriage needs a boost, should I paint my walls these colors?

NO! Those specific colors are only for single women and can, if used inside a marital chamber, sometimes provoke a wandering or roving eye from the mate in question. Rather, you want to go ahead and get an amethyst crystal and tie nine to 18 inches around the base of it. Now, tie it around the foot of the bed on the side that your beloved sleeps on. This is some energetic insurance that your love will last forever. The red sheets, pair of pink roses and your good intentions all guarantee a little boost in the bedding department.

Okay, that’s it for today. Tomorrow we will talk more about bedroom Shui and how implementing same can bring you happy and healthy days as well as some pretty steamy nights. Sweet Dreams!