LOVE SHUI!!! Hooray!
At sunrise or at any early morning time when you rise, take a red candle and anoint it with any of the rose family true essential oils. At first, rub the oil from the top of the candle (representing the North Pole, you know, the one Sarah Palin can see from her bedroom) and keep stroking it all the way around and down to the center. Then, stroke the oil upward from the bottom of the candle (representing the South Pole, you know, the one Sarah Palin can see from her bedroom) back up to the center again. Once the candle has been completely anointed with the oil then light it and let it burn for an hour. Put it out at the conclusion of that hour. Now, each day upon arising relight that candle and let it burn for at least an hour or until is has melted away. Soon enough there should be some heat and some sizzle in your own love life as well. Just be careful not to burn the candle at both ends, that’s how powerful this cure can be!
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As you might know by now, my son is a true and lasting light in my life, a boy who makes the Sun pale in comparison. But he wasn’t always such a sure bet. His father and I tried for a solid six years to have a child and I suffered through exactly that many miscarriages before becoming pregnant with twins, of which the one giant joy survived.
Over that same six years of trying to conceive, I made such beautiful and blessed friends of teachers and masters and just plain old helpful people who all knew some “secret” technique for not only getting pregnant (which I had a hard time doing) but for staying that way (harder time still!) In fact, I tried so many different ways to aid our efforts at a successful conception and healthy birth that I consider myself a sort of walking (literally) encyclopedia of infertility “cures.”
Now, as is the wont of many cultures and traditions, some of these tips and techniques are believed to only work when practiced or enacted on specific or certain calendar days of the year. And this is such a one, which, actually I find sort of synchronistic since it is also a HARVEST Full Moon!
Anyway, here’s the information that if used properly and with faith and hope will certainly go a long wahhhh, um, I mean, way towards putting that same sort of bright light in your life that constantly serves to brilliantly and beautifully illuminate mine.
The Red Material Ball Cure
In Feng Shui a red material ball (silk is ALWAYS the material of choice in this modality when dealing with material due to its organic nature) that is stuffed with feathers (again, if you can get to any open space where you can actually collect bird feathers off the ground yourself, all the better. If you cannot, no worries, just go to any fabric or craft store and pick some up) is considered a symbol or representative of fertility. Red material ball stuffed with feathers, got it? In the Orient the tradition was that any woman of a marriageable age would invite her suitors or her intended partners to come and present themselves a la Romeo or Cyrano de Bergerac, under her balcony. She would then throw down this red material ball and whoever had the best arm and caught that ball (no pun, get your mind out of the gutter, yeeesh, we’re talking about babies here!), so whoever caught the ball would become her husband and consequently the father to their children. This ceremony was always done on the 15th day of September. Another version of this same idea done on this same day was to fasten the red ball to the gutter of the roof of the home where the child would eventually live so as to encourage the egg of the mother (symbolized by the circular ball) and her circulatory system (symbolized by the color red for her blood) to cooperate and conceive a child (the feathers representing the ling or soul of this special one) and give birth and then live happily ever after. Or until they had to figure out how to pay for college. Whatever comes first.
Over the past few days just everyone has been complaining about the hot, hot heat and always seeming to add, well, to me anyway, that it’s just so out of place to have these sorts of soaring temperatures in June. Of course, the trail of this thought leads to a supposition that if this is what the weather’s like in mid-June, then August should be a walk in wider and wider circles through the very pits of Hell.
Whenever I encounter someone who starts presupposing how bad the future is going to be, FOR ANY REASON AT ALL, I mentally leave the conversation and go somewhere else where all is well and the Gates of Hades are still closed for the time being. In this particular case, while one of my neighbors was on a full tilt heated rant yesterday, I went to the June of my childhood.
When I think of June, I think of roses. We had “rose bushes” in our own “garden” (there’s a really good reason those quotes are in both of those places) in our back yard but, our neighbor, the quirky Mother Earth, Jean Sellers, had the most lovely ones in hers. All different colors and scents, and she was forever clipping and giving those roses to all of us kids to bring home to our mother. See, she and my mother were really good friends so, not only must she have been privy to the fact that one or all of the four of us were perennially in trouble, but, she also knew that the scent-ual offering she was affording us would put us right with Mom.
I loved Mrs. Sellers and I loved, loved, loved her rose bushes. They were so full that a brief brush past them would start a rain of soft petals that would create an almost magical Cinderella-esque ground cover. One good stiff June breeze would do the same. And that smell…
As we fell asleep at night, with the windows wide open, the summer wind would waft the smell of a million roses into the room—it scenting our sleep and seeding sweet dreams.
Roses are abundant this time of year and, so, along those same vines it should come as no surprise that June is also known as ‘Rose Month.’ For centuries now, roses have been held in highest esteem, not only for their flavors and scents but also for their allure and association with amour. If you’re looking to find a sweet partner or mate, take two pink long-stemmed roses and remove the thorns. Place them in a white vase and position them in the ‘Romance/Relationship’ area of your bedroom (far back right hand corner as you look in from the bedroom door.) This simple and sweet gesture is said to bring those same sorts of energies into your love life. Change this duo every three days and replace with fresh stems. Do this for a total of three times or for nine days. Count on this pair to bring a bloom and some growth into your partnering dreams. Your sweet, sweet, partnering dreams.
As you all might know by now, I pen a daily tip for iVillage.com that gets sent to hundreds of thousands of their subscribers each day. And, as you might imagine, I tend to hear from a host of those very same subscribers when I post a tip that seems to strike a chord. That happened recently, except this post didn’t just strike a chord, apparently it struck the whole friggin’ orchestra.
The tip in question was for single women only and it advised that if an unmarried woman was looking to find the perfect partner of her dreams that she should sleep in a bedroom painted some shade of pink or peach or even salmon. The response that I received to sharing this one Feng Shui ‘secret’ has reached epic proportions. Let’s address some of the most common concerns from the myriad mails that I’ve received:
1. What if you are renting space or are living in a place that doesn’t allow you to actually proactively paint the walls?
Now, I have to reiterate that this tip is gender specific to single women (more on that in a minute) and is only ONE of a host of different ways to use the bedroom to attract the date of your dream date. If you can’t paint and you are either a man or a woman, what you can do is locate the ‘Relationship’ area of your bedroom (standing at the bedroom door and looking inside the room, it’s the back right hand corner) and place A PAIR OF ANYTHING HERE. The number two symbolizes couples and coupling.
One standard Feng Shui “cure” says to place a pair of geese or ducks here as these species mate for life. In fact, a pair of lovebirds, for my money, will make these loving intentions take flight a bit more quickly while not having your visitors quack up when they see wooden ducks or geese lingering in your love space.
As well, and this is the gold standard of Feng Shui secrets, a pair of healthy, fresh pink long stemmed roses (with all thorns removed) put into a pure white vase and placed into the ‘Romance/Relationship’ area will do the proverbial trick as well. To make sure you have given a new relationship every chance to bloom and grow, you should change out those roses every nine days for a total of 27 days (or three times.)
Or you could make sure that you have TWO beds stands with TWO lamps sitting atop each of them. Change the bulbs in those lamps to red ones and turn them on for three hours a day every single day for 49 straight. If you miss a day, you have to begin the process again. And those lamps don’t only need to be on for three hours, they could stay on (in the case that you were going away for the weekend) or be put on timers. Just remember to visualize what it is you want out of this adjustment before you get turned on. I have it on excellent authority that this cure really does work. Gives new meaning to ‘red light’ district, eh? Speaking of working the red, red sheets on the bed stimulate the sizzle and bring some heat to the room and, then, to your love life.
2. Does painting the walls pink work if you are a guy looking for a partner?
There are so many things wrong with this question, but, the answer is NO and I know there was a huge and collective sigh from many, MANY of my male readers. There is a secret cure in Feng Shui that says if you are a single man looking to mate then you should hang a picture of cherry or apple blossoms over your bed. Easy enough and it really works the energies to your advantage. You can also use all the same stipulations just mentioned as well as this next one; if you are really serious about attracting that special someone, make some room for them. That’s right, show the Universe how ready you are to share your space by making some for someone else. Clear out a small space in your closet. Give some stuff away. Clean out a drawer and leave it empty for someone dear to come and fill. Likewise, look at your bathroom and make some space for the second toothbrush. Act “as if” and “if” will soon follow you home.
3. If my marriage needs a boost, should I paint my walls these colors?
NO! Those specific colors are only for single women and can, if used inside a marital chamber, sometimes provoke a wandering or roving eye from the mate in question. Rather, you want to go ahead and get an amethyst crystal and tie nine to 18 inches around the base of it. Now, tie it around the foot of the bed on the side that your beloved sleeps on. This is some energetic insurance that your love will last forever. The red sheets, pair of pink roses and your good intentions all guarantee a little boost in the bedding department.
Okay, that’s it for today. Tomorrow we will talk more about bedroom Shui and how implementing same can bring you happy and healthy days as well as some pretty steamy nights. Sweet Dreams!
Beginning this week, I’ll be blogging about how to Feng Shui the bedroom...
From what colors should be used, to what kinds of lighting, smells, symbols, accessories and decor, we will go cover to cover and even under the sheets to see how to empower your sleep time so your waking one will make ALL your dreams come true.
For instance:
- What color should women paint their bedrooms to attract a partner?
- What about renters who can’t paint their walls?
- Gender specific advice for men who want to meet their mate
- Tips for married women who want to boost their sagging sex lives
- Etc…
This is a topic that needs exploring and, in really is a case of you snooze, you lose.
Stay tuned...
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